Ask for the Holy Spirit to dwell in you! He will not come until invited. He is not a dictator or a bully. I asked in the name of Yeshua Jesus – alone in my room years ago; and the Holy Spirit came and baptized me/dunked me in Himself and came into my heart at my welcome. I had known Jesus for many years, but I will never forget that additional experience with the Holy Spirit! And I keep on keeping on being filled with His Spirit, His Word, and His Way. I continue to inquire of Him every day! God’s Word (which is filled with the Spirit of God) explains this marvelously:
Matthew 7: 7-11 (Amplified version), “Ask and keep on asking and it will be given to you; seek and keep on seeking and you will find; knock and keep on knocking and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who keeps on asking receives, and he who keeps on seeking finds, and to him who keeps on knocking, it will be opened. Or what man is there among you who, if his son asks for bread, will instead give him a stone? Or if he asks for a fish, will instead give him a snake? If you then, evil (sinful by nature) as you are, know how to give good and advantageous gifts to your children, how much more will your Father who is in heaven, perfect as He is, give what is good and advantageous to those who keep on asking Him.”
Ephesians 3: 14-21 (Amplified version), “For this reason [grasping the greatness of this plan by which Jews and Gentiles are joined together in Christ] I bow my knees in reverence before the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, from whom every family in heaven and on earth derives its name, God—the first and ultimate Father. May He grant you out of the riches of His glory, to be strengthened and spiritually energized with power through His Spirit in your inner self, [indwelling your innermost being and personality], so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through your faith. And may you, having been deeply rooted and securely grounded in love, be fully capable of comprehending with all the saints (God’s people) the width and length and height and depth of His love [fully experiencing that amazing, endless love]; and that you may come to know [practically, through personal experience] the love of Christ which far surpasses mere knowledge without experience, that you may be filled up throughout your being to all the fullness of God [so that you may have the richest experience of God’s presence in your lives, completely filled and flooded with God Himself]. Now to Him who is able to carry out His purpose and do superabundantly more than all that we dare ask or think [infinitely beyond our greatest prayers, hopes, or dreams], according to His power that is at work within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations forever and ever. Amen.”
I urge you to invite the Holy Spirit into your inner being, that He may be your Mentor, Coach, Teacher, Helper, Comforter, Counselor, and Best Friend. I believe in some cases, people will be given the gift of speaking in different languages (tongues), but the purpose is to give bold witness to the gospel of Yeshua Jesus. It is also possible that the Holy Spirit will gift you other gifts and calling to grow into. You need not be concerned about those now, but they are taught in 1 Corinthians 12. Yet, notice 1 Corinthians 13 follows to teach us the more excellent way of love. So, training in love and being motivated by love is primary to using God given gifts. Learning true love is a better beginning focus. God is love. Ask the Holy Spirit to teach you to be like Him.